Amber Farrand

When it comes to dealing with an end of life diagnosis, Amber can offer support every step of the way.

Amber recently became certified as an End of Life Doula to offer emotional, spiritual, and nonmedical support to patients and families facing a terminal illness, such as cancer.

 “Whatever they need I can be that nonbiased support person, that voice of reason in a time when people are overwhelmed with emotions,” she said. “You get that terminal diagnosis and your emotions just go haywire and from there on out you really don’t hear anything, so I want to support people and let families know they will get through this. It feels like you’re never going to be okay again, but you will.” 

Amber Farrand

Amber understands what families go through when faced with an end of life diagnosis. She lost her husband, Scott, to cancer in November 2016, and her father three months later.

“I have personal experience of knowing what I could have used for support that can help me help families,” she said. “We live in a pretty rural area so maybe for an elderly couple that has no children and one of the spouses is dying, it would be comforting for that patient to know at least I’m there.”

As an End of Life Doula, Amber can provide support based on the individual needs of the patient and their family. Initially, she can help sort out legal documents such as advance healthcare directives and wills, and then serve as a source of support through the remainder of the dying process.  

 “They may want to utilize me to come over and just sit with them and be a support person,” she said. “I could be another resource for the family by being there to comfort them, run errands, cook dinner, or just give them a break by staying with the patient. Really, it’s anything they need."


She will also stay with the family for 13 months after the patient passes.


"I’ll follow families for 13 months after the death to help them get through all those firsts and check to see how they’re coping," Amber said. "Sometimes people just need somebody to talk to and I can just be that.”


End of Life Doulas do not usually deal with the medical side of a terminal diagnosis, but since Amber previously worked as a registered nurse at the Richard E. Winter Cancer Center, she can offer knowledge.

 “I think my experience can make it a little bit more reassuring for the family because I do have a medical background," she said. "So I can help not only with spiritual and emotional needs, but with understanding different medical terminology and phases of the dying process, and being a resource to make sure the dying patient's needs are being met."


Unfortunately insurance does not cover the services Amber offers since they’re considered holistic care, but she is more than willing to work with clients to determine an affordable price for services. Her initial one hour consult with a new client is free and a price for services is negotiated from there.


 “I can base price on income so there is room for me to negotiate. I’m not going to turn anybody away,” she said. “I’ll find out what patients and families want from me in the initial consult - what they are looking for from support or do they even know what they need - and then have them sign a contract with everything laid out so they'll know what they’re getting.”


It’s [End of Life Doulas] such a new concept, but I think it’s something that’s really needed ... I think that we fall out at the end of life. It’s that pink elephant in the room that nobody wants to talk about, but needs to talk about.

Amber decided to become certified as an End of Life Doula this past spring. She wanted to do something different with her career, specifically to help people at the end of life. So when a friend sent her a link about end of life doulas, she looked into it and knew it was exactly what she wanted to do.


Her certification is through Professional Doula International. She completed a three day training in New York City at the end of September months of mentoring.


To her knowledge, Amber is the only certified End of Life Doula in the area. While she is based in St. Lawrence County, she is going to see where the business takes her and hopes for future growth.


“It’s such a new concept, but I think it’s something that’s really needed. It's another resource and way to help out Hospice. The misconception is that Hospice is there 24/7 and we know that’s not the case so I could be that other support person,” she said. 


Amber’s experience with her two children, ages 14 and 10, during her husband’s death helped her see how beneficial being included every step of the way can be for families.


“I couldn’t have asked for a better experience for my kids. They stayed with Scott from the moment he decided he wasn’t going to do any further treatment, and held his hand during his very last breath. For a time that was so hard and hurtful, it was beautiful at the same time," she said. "My kids now have a sense of death that they never had before and they were able to see that it’s not scary and it’s very peaceful. I think they understand it better now so when my dad passed away three months later they were able to cope a little bit easier."


Amber also emphasized the importance of talking about death so people are not so afraid.


“I think that we fall out at the end of life - it's that pink elephant in the room that nobody wants to talk about, but needs to talk about," she said. "We’re all going to end up there, we just don’t know when or how, but that is where every single person on this earth ends up so we should and need to talk about it."


Her advice for patients and families facing an end of life diagnosis is to take some positives out of all the negative, even when it doesn’t feel like it’s going to be okay.


“Try to get your thoughts in order as much as you can. It’s not going to happen tomorrow, so you do have time, even though it doesn’t feel like it,” she said. “One of the mottos end of life specialists practice by is ‘we can’t add days to your life, but we can add life back to your days you have left’, so take advantage of the time you have and make the most of it."


To contact Amber, you can email her at